Song
of Solomon 2:15 (NASB) Catch
the foxes for us, |
As
wives, we forget
that “judge not” applies toward our husbands. He should be the first
person we
try to hold in high esteem, but as we focus on his flaws instead of his
good
qualities, our attention can be easily drawn toward someone else who
displays
the attributes we don’t currently see in our husbands. We must be
careful not
to follow the desires birthed from frustrations in our marriage.
Galatians
5:24
Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions
and desires.
Most
certainly, for
every fault we see in our husband it is mirrored back to us. Instead of
trying
to “fix” him, we must seek God for the truth in our own hearts and fix us. Amazingly, when we get better, our
husband gets better. Try it and see!
3)
Suspicion
Along with the little foxes of disrespect and judgment comes disillusionment. Marriage doesn’t turn out to be what we dreamed it would be. We expected our emotion of love to stay as strong as it was in the beginning, but the reality of life has set in and the little foxes have crept in.
Along
with disillusionment
comes suspicion. We can let any little thing turn into a big thing in
our
imagination. Suspicion feeds on fear. The little foxes multiply and the
separation between husband and wife becomes wider and wider—in
communication,
in affection and in relationship.
Commitment
is easily uprooted
if we base our marriage on how we feel instead of on the vow we made
before God
in the presence of witnesses. We must remember that God takes our
marriage vow
very seriously. The consequences of trying to escape a failing marriage
for
some semblance of happiness (the grass is greener on the other side)
can be
devastating. (Be aware, I’m not talking about an abusive relationship.
If you
suffer harm at your spouse’s hand, you should seek safety for yourself
and your
children.)
When
we are disillusioned
with our husband, the sounds of suspicion ring loud over any little
thing. We
allow doubt about his love for us to creep in, and our insecurities are
magnified. Left unspoken, suspicion and insecurity drive us farther
apart.
We
must not think the
worst of him, but the best. We must discipline ourselves to look for
his good
qualities and thank God for them. We must thank God for our husbands.
We must
look for things to praise our husbands for and make a practice of it.
4)
Unforgiveness
Do
you hold a grudge
in your heart toward your husband? Women particularly have a difficult
time
with this. I speak from experience.
If
you don’t know the
answer to this question, take it to God and ask Him to reveal the
truth, so
that you can be healthy in your heart and begin to get healthy in your
marriage. It may take a period of time to clean out your heart, but He
will
gently guide you on a journey of forgiveness and healing. You won’t
believe how
free you can feel when your heart is clear of grudges, for a grudge is
nothing
more than unforgiveness.
Mark
11:26 NASB says,
“But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father who
is
in heaven forgive your
transgressions.”
Forgiveness
is at the
root of who Jesus is and what He taught. Forgiveness sets us free. When
we’re
holding grudges and resentment in our heart toward our husband, it
blocks the
flow of the Holy Spirit from moving freely through us. Unforgiveness
makes us unhealthy
in our spirit and can make us unhealthy in our bodies.
A
healthy marriage
starts with a healthy heart. When you discover what’s hidden in your
heart, you
can begin the journey back to the joy of feeling love again.
Proverbs
4:23 says, “Keep
your heart with
all
diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”
Jesus
said, “I
am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except
through
Me.” John 14:6
There
is life in
forgiveness. There is healing in thankfulness. There is honor in
respecting your
husband. The brightness of hope surfaces in the face of Jesus
Christ—the truth.
And when we treat our husband like He is Jesus, we begin to see Jesus
in him.
Study
the Bible verse
of Song of Solomon 2:15 and walk with Christ as you discover the little
foxes
together so you can know the fullness of joy in marriage.
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